Group dances have always mesmerized me. Similar costumes. Same dance steps. Same song. Still, all performing individuals have a different, special expression on their faces. They join each other in one symphony but their stories are different. Each has a unique background history, circumstances, loved ones. So are their dreams, aspirations and hopes.
I’ve always lived by the belief that our uniqueness makes us different from others. And it makes us special too. Without feeling the need to imitate someone, compete with, or be jealous of someone’s achievements, if we acknowledge our special traits and features, we will be doing a great service to the gifts given to us by The Almighty.
On this International Women’s Day, the only message that I want to share with my readers –
~ Embrace and Celebrate the unique you ~
Yes, we are still in the process of women empowerment. There is a large section of society where women are still fighting for basic human rights, to live and be educated. For equal treatment at workspace. For simple facilities like safe and accessible toilets. And at every space where there is lack of safety, opportunity, space or equality, the blame takes a complete circle to fall on the victim. An important tool used against women is to make them feel guilty about their choices. To tell them how it was wrong to take ‘that’ step, whatever it was. To let them know that they are not doing enough. And to pitch them against other women. To judge and criticize them for every single thing they do – their choice of dressing, their choice of career, whether they are working or not, whether they like to decorate themselves or remain simple, whether they choose to date, or stay single, marry early or late, have kids or not, and when…
The list is endless. People with opinions may go on as long as they wish to or have time and energy to do so. But we don’t have energy to stop because of these judgements. So, don’t let people make you feel apologetic for a choice you made for yourself. It’s your life. If you wish to chase your dreams, don’t allow people to tell you that you are being selfish. If you want to have kids, don’t let anyone label you as non-ambitious.
Our journeys are peculiar. Our privileges and obstacles are different too. We can never be compared. We are a product of our strengths, abilities, education, and upbringing. But that is not all. We are hindered too. Not only by people around us, but by circumstances, time constraints, good or bad experiences, responsibilities, limitations and emotions. And so, our decisions get shaped.
Sometimes, you won’t feel like doing anything. It’s okay. Sometimes, you know you need therapy. It’s cool. Go ahead and see the doctor or anyone who can help you. Sometimes, you want to stop not and give the best shot to your dreams. Get going!
It’s your journey, you know it better.
My point is to believe in your ability to make decisions for yourself. Trust that you know what is right for you at any particular moment without being swayed by the random labels people try to give you. To not be influenced by what others are doing because you never know what they have been through.
Let’s not allow others to decide who we will be and what we will choose to be.
Instead, let’s take complete responsibility of our choices. Of our decisions. Of our lives. And take pride in it, too.
Let’s celebrate the uniqueness that makes us: The Unique Us!
Happy International Women’s Day ✨🌻
PS – I’ll be revealing the cover of The Size of Love today 🤩💖