Hopes & Dreams: Broken And Otherwise – My Corner

I had planned for a post on ‘My Corner’ to be on every Saturday!! But apparently, we can plan nothing in life… and it’s cool ๐Ÿ™‚

It’s my blog and I am allowed to write as and when I feel like… Right? ๐Ÿ™‚

I couldn’t write any update or anything worth posting for last two days because I was talking to so many of disappointed fans who were hoping for something and were left heartbroken… and you have no idea how many times I have typed the same things again and again…ย 

Then I realised, maybe there are people who are not able to get in touch with me but need me. Hence, this post!

Also… Try and pass on this post to someone who needs it…ย 

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Hopes & Dreams: Broken and Otherwise

I have grown up adoring Shah Rukh Khan and his work in my teenage. So, obviously, Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge was a staple in my list of evergreen favourites.

There is a dialogue in that movie, DDLJ, where Kajol is upset and tells her mom that it was a waste to dream and hope. The reply her mom, Farida Jalal, gave her hit me deep! At that time and it still stays with me, even after so many years!
It has become a basis of the way I deal with my aspirations and try to pass on the same to my daughters. I will write the exact dialogue in Hindi.

Her mother says – “Sapne dekho, jaroor dekho… magar unke pura hone ki shart mat rakho!”

(Translation – Do continue to dream. But never lay a condition that they will be fulfilled. )

Dreams and Hopes are a person’s way to look at the future. They are the basis of our happiness, energy to work hard and keep striving till you get what you deserve. Sometimes, we dream of things which are not in our hands. We can only hope for the same.

A lot of people are so negative that they have lost the power of hoping and dreaming… about anything in life. They are cynical – About their own lives, country, society, professions and everything in general.
Some are optimistic, hopeful and positive. And they hope for the best… Always!!
Some go beyond the normal periphery and dream of impossible. It is not wrong. Not at all wrong.

Like I always say – When you dream, go to the extreme!!

Why dream of less?! You are not being charged for the same. You are not losing anything by just hoping and dreaming. So why limit yourself??

But if your dreams interfere with your ability to accept that – ‘It maybe… can be… will be broken someday…’, then it becomes a problem. You can continue to dream and hope till you can handle the shattered mess of the same.ย 

I am writing all this because I was shaken by some people who said that – ‘I will never love someone, so much, ever again…’ … or… ‘I have lost faith in love and hopes and dreams…’

It’s a big statement!!

Why???

What did you do to give such harsh punishment to yourself and change your personality? Two people look so good together and create chemistry that makes people want them to be in love. They look good in one frame, so it is obvious to want to keep looking at them in one frame.

But they are not in love. Some people thought that they were dating but they were not. They never did.
You see what you want to see. You believe what you want to believe. You were not wrong there. You were simply fogged out by love. You loved them so much that you wanted to see them together. Allow yourself to accept this fact.

NEVER let anyone tell you that you were stupid, or silly, or wrong!!! No, you were not!!!

I pity those who have lost all ability to love. They criticize others for being positive and hoping and dreaming! You haven’t… You loved people more than dreams for your own self! You won there. So, it is not wrong to love two people who gave you so much happiness, taught you the meaning of love, hope, and belief.

But if they don’t feel the same, it is not anyone’s fault!! Is it?? Why think that two real people will behave the way, you want them to.

Even, I love them a lot. Equally… Individually…Together!!

I always knew that they are not together. I could clearly see it. I said the same to someone a few months ago when she told me that they are dating. I said – ‘No, I don’t think so! Because I can see that they are not. I don’t misunderstand their friendly gestures to each other.’

But that doesn’t stop me from imagining them as the perfect muse for my creations. Their association is imaginary and only creative, limited to professional capacity, but enough to make me happy to create a Universe where things look perfect!

Storytelling is all about that. I tell you perfect stories and they make us feel good and live in them. We all know that they are not true. Does it stop us from reading and writing fiction? All films, all books, all TV shows are the imaginary fictional world. But they form the exact basis of our happiness and escape from reality.

Same was a relationship of PaNi – Imaginary. Delusional!

What we forget is – that they are two real people. And we don’t even know them. No one knows them. You only get to see what they want to show in public. I will never do that even to my daughter or sister – tell her to be with a guy who I think is perfect for her? And be upset if she doesn’t think what I think is perfect!

If they ended up together, I would have been happy. Because, why not?? They are too good to be true! But if they don’t, I’m happy because they are happy!

Their personal life is none of my business. Period.

If you are not happy, you never really loved them!!!

If we can love SRK and Kajol, Ranbir and Deepika, Siddharth and Parineeti without hoping to see them together in real, irrespective of their personal equations, we know that we have grown up! Believe in what they are trying to make you learn and experience. Not what they are in real. No one knows them.

In another parallel Universe, Manik still belongs to Nandini and vice versa, and they are together… an end-game: Forever- Hamesha!!!
I will never stop stanning them or loving them!! For me, they are the perfect definition of true love.ย 

MaNan are way beyond even Richa Yamini who created them.ย  A story and characters leave the people who created them and live a life of their own. I believe it very deeply. Manik is way beyond Parth and Nandini is way different from Niti and I’m privileged to be the one where two people created a chemistry that made us believe in MaNan.

Thank them. Love them. Move on. Let them live their lives!!
While you live yours.

It’s not just about people, it’s about everything in life – Every Damnnn Thing!!!
If we get it, very well!!
If we don’t, we won’t stop believing in the power of our dreams.

Hope. Love. Peace. Ability to love others more than us is amazing! And you excel at that.ย Extend your love for a bit more and accept what life throws at you! Everything!!

Abhi toh bahut kuch dekhna hai zindagi mein…yeh toh kuch bhi nahi hai…

It might not be a smooth ride, but life is worth every experience. And I’m so glad we lived this experience together, will remember that we can love others to that extreme. And moved on too.

There is no rush to heal yourself whenever you are hurt. Take your time. Decide your priorities in life. Make a life that makes you speak about it proudly and makes your parents and family proud and let people burn and say –

‘God, even THAT setback didn’t knock her down!! What is she made of??’

We will keep dreaming and loving but won’t ask ANYONE ELSE to bow before our wishes and desires. Not even God!! Especially, not God!!

God knows everything better than all of us!!

Take care.

Lots of love to you… talk to me if you are upset about ANYTHING in life… I always say that and I am here to listen and counsel at the best of my capacity.

Stay blessed. Stay Happy. Stay Positive.

Manita.

 

 

 

 

 

173 Comments Add yours

  1. weirdfascinations says:

    Sorry I am a little late, was part of a massive college fest and didn’t come back home for three days ๐Ÿ™‚
    This is such a good post. I had detached myself from the fandom a long time because it felt unrealistic to ship two real people. I am still very much a part of MaNan fandom and that’s not going away anytime soon. But this piece really makes me understand what you are trying to say and I appreciate your efforts. You are like an elder sister for us, truly!! It is sad that we prolly live miles apart but it feels great to know we are connected through something so beautiful.

    1. manitavb says:

      Absolutely!
      We are connected and we will stick around ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Anamika says:

    Well said…..It was our perception to see manan in pani and we were delusional and so happy…that we went way beyond the practical life…..it’s good to hope but to break down on yourself and faith on your idols when they don’t act according to our perception is completely our mistake….we should be in control of our emotions and love for them as individuals and characters they portray….not force them to do something we want…..in fact the girl is so happy with her engagement and the boy wishing her luck is something to look for….profession and personal life has always been different for them….It was us who had build a fictional world about them….I love them individually and would continue doing so…..

  3. Anonymous says:

    Dii when will you update ? We are waiting ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

  4. vareesha says:

    we are humans and we do sometimes expect things to happen for real and they sometimes really do happen.For me it happened for sure. I always wanted a show which had great music ,great freindship and epic lovestory…well I never could find such a show and maybe I expected alot..but .but…but…guess what?It did get fulfilled!!…last year,in nov 2018, I happend to chance upon a random clip on insta on the search page(maybe it was all destined).The clip I saw was “a guy with sparkles in his eyes knelt down on his knees as he was totally shaken and got lost by the beauty of his beloved whilst the bgm song ‘kaise bataun tujhe’..”..Damn that clip was sooo beautiful……then I saw a dozen more clips thanks to the FCs…and I knew it that my wish was actually coming to life!!…i finally discoverd an amazing show “Kaisi Yeh Yariaan”..wohooo!!…and from there on there was no looking back…i got my wishful showโค
    Obviously who wouldn’t want two people who have literally given life to their characters and gifted us #Manan,
    come together in real life as well..but as I said not all wishes are fulfilled..so be it…
    But we cant deny that we luckily got our one wish fulfilled to witness such an epic,beautiful,positive show which is a complete package…and we will not find another show like our #KYY…For me its the most magical show I have ever seen..It is a stressbuster…So guys we should cherish our show KYY and treasure our #Manan love forever hamesha…i want this fandom to grow stonger and wider and blossom…
    I want that our love for our KYY our Manan to be a testament for deacdes to come.Lets treasure it like an evergreen classic song,an evergreen classic movie…because KYY is not just a show its a freaking Emotion!!…and yes our Manan is together forever hamesha in the parallel universe and we want more of them,their love,their friendship through more seasons of #KYY in this universe…
    Cheers to KYY Fandom๐Ÿป Cheers to Manan loveโคโคโค

  5. Mol says:

    Hi, this was a great, much needed post. I went through all the comments and feel really bad for all the girls who are so heartbroken. I am really glad Manita is giving a space where everyone is able to vent. These are feelings people are unable to vent out even on twitter or IG because they get judged and attacked by people from the opposite spectrum. The tears of the sensitive have no place on twitter and IG.
    I want to speak about this crisis from a different angle. Social media has been called an echo chamber, meaning you get to hear ONLY what you WANT to hear. fandoms, shippers or any such band of online friends listen only to voices that sound like them and rule out any dissenting voices. Very different from real life where you cannot cancel out people whom you dont want to hear. When EVERYONE on your timeline is saying Pani is a couple, a secret couple, spotted dating, going to announce soon etc….you easily start believing that this is the TRUTH. How do you challenge someone who says “oh they were at this hotel yesterday celebrating their anniversary” as if they saw them? The trick is to be open to the fact that others who have a different point of view may be right too.
    It is simply not your fault, even political parties get caught in their echo chamber and are convinced they are winning an election. I think the key is to cultivate friendships with individuals, regardless of their fandoms. Find people in many fandoms who interest you and interact with them.
    This too will pass!

  6. Chendubundu says:

    Hey Man it’s. Beautiful post. Loved everything you wrote.

    I maybe the weird Manan fan who was never interested in the actors personal life. It’s their personal life period. Because they are public figured doesn’t make them answerable. Just like I wouldn’t like anyone giving me advice on how I should live, who I should love, where and what I should do for living. It would be the same for anyone else. I would respect that. How many of us would like it when a parent or a sibling per a well wisher asks us to do something like study a different steam for graduation or marry someone who we don’t like or work for a job we were never interested in? I am not being judgemental here. We have to be practical and understand that they are two different individuals who have different interests in life. We should love them respect them and cherish the work they do for us to entertain us.

    I am sorry if I came across as rude. But that’s my stance on all the shipping. Just because they are public figures doesn’t make them answerable about their private life.

  7. Nikita says:

    The journey started on 21 july 2014 I came across Manan. I was just in 8 the when I first watched them. At such a tender age I didn’t knew what shipping was , what love was, I just liked to see them together and I continued watching it and slowly I fell in love with them. At that time I never shipped them I was content with just Manan. Than season 1 got over and I know of didn’t watch season 2 because of absence of manik . I had moved on at that time from them. I didn’t knew that fcs existed shipping them anywhere. I was just happy rewatching Manan and Fab 5 . Than came 2018 when they announced season 3 I was happy not because pani were coming together but because Manan was coming together. Than I got to know about fcs and all . I joined insta and the only thing that I wanted to stay away from, I got hooked on the same thing,I started Shipping them. More so because few of the fcs were so confident on them. I just thought may be there is some hope. Slowly slowly I got obessesd and I couldn’t see them with anybody else and than some people claimed that they have sources acc to which they are definitely dating and I being a stupid teenager believed them. And the day arrived that I was always afraid of one of them getting hooked . Trust me I saw the post I was numb. I just couldn’t feel anything it was like somebody had ripped my heart apart. I was shattered. Tears just wouldn’t stop . The fantasy that many were living in was finally broken. And we have no one to blame but ourselves. But the pain that was terrible and I never want to experience that ever again. It was like I had given up on life which now actually sound stupid to me but at that time, I was blank , my heart was bleeding. I deleted everything and I sat still I don’t know for how many hours . That picture just won’t leave me. But than I talked to my friend she guided me . And I was ablw to think sanely again. But you know there will be always a nagging feeling inside my head that why did this happen. No matter how much we move on , today I don’t feel anything, I have successfully moved on and I just wish both of them happiness but still that feeling will always be there. Maybe I will never be able to watch them again but manan will always be my forever. Thank you for this post it was much needed. And I feel free now. I got the closure I was looking for and I hope same for the others. I know it is tough but not impossible. Learn to live yourself before anyone else and always know the difference between real and reel. ๐Ÿ™

    1. manitavb says:

      My heart goes out to you Nikita.
      If you read other comments and if you listen to people on twitter and Insta, you will know that you are not a stand-alone story.
      It is the story narrated to me by hundreds of you who were purely Manan fans for 4 years. I started watching KYY in 2017 and was told that the lead pair has had a problematic history, they never got along well and in fact, had a lot of fights.
      Still, when I watched it, I fell for the Storyline, Grip of the narration, Characters, dialogues, the way it was executed and definitely for Manan chemistry.
      I neither hoped nor wanted any PaNi.

      With S3, the chemistry was palpable again and this time they were friends. Who wouldn’t like that their lead pair has an amazing equation.
      That’s when younger mind started hoping for more and then followed one path after another, one fanclub after other where they were influenced by others for whatever reasons they believe can be justified for such blatant lies.

      Anyway. I’m so glad people are beginning to accept that we all started will Manan only and we will stick to Manan only!!!

      Let their personal, REAL lives stay private. We are happy with the REEL!

      1. Anonymous says:

        I completely agree to both of you. I started watching KYY in 2017, when I was struggling in my life too and this came as a refreshing stressbuster. I started liking the lead pair but whatever I heard and read, was sure that never shared good relation offscreen. And then got the news of season 3 in 2018 and their friendship kinda gave hope. I thought not teenager and always knew, they are just friends and nothing more but due to diff fc confidence, started hoping of PANI together and this news was definitely a heartbreaker but I still wish Niti all the blessings. She deserves happiness. For a short while only, but this pair helped me in coming out of difficult zone. I used to forget all problems whaen I was in Manan Zone.
        That’s how I feel when I read your stories too Manita. I definitely don’t wanna ship any pair anymore. But yes Manan will always be in my heart and I still can watch KYY and whenever in stress… nobody can take that away from me.

  8. Anonymous says:

    I don’t know what to sayy….I am wayyy to hurttt ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ always have been a manan fan have lived in that world .. .watching them on TV reading stories on if and wattpad ….happy fairy tale stories….never knew what shipping is pani because was never active on IG or Twitter ……come on IG met many people come to know about pani their equation …..was fed with so much of thingss ….they all were elder to me ….I trusted them believed them …..Parth niti vacation pe gye she makes coffee for him …..they were so confident about Pani …it Actually made me shipped them …..parth used to post pictures with food …they told me niti is with him…..I even asked why don’t they post pics with each other then….unhone bola ki they want public Attention and also how much crazy we are I believed ….mujhe parth niti ki equation ke bare mai nhi Pta tha what happened with in 2015-16 I was not sns much …I was small and still a teenager …trusted them so much and its Actually hurting a lot ….its been 3 days I am not able to move….I am really happy for niti she is so happy with him…bless her Always …..but pani…its a hrutung a lot….not even able to eat anything ….not able to concentrate on anything ….Kuch smjh nhi arha kya kri Sab move on hone ko bol rhe Hai but nhi ho rha …..everything is revolving in mind๐Ÿ˜ญ …I am sorry Kuch smjh nhi aya saw this post …toh I spoked over here.

    1. Nancy says:

      Manan made me belive in love and hope and I am hating this word now ……hope kro hope pani real hai 2020 mai they will be official ……..manan made me strong …they made me fight with so many situation ……and I have done that in mybreal life too ….when my Friends betrayed me ……manan were only who made me come out of that …. From last two days I am trying watching kyy and manan but now its not happening …..all I remember is their words ….manik hi Parth hai nandini hi niti hai manan or Pani is same ….or maine bhi yhi smjhna start kr diya ….. Mujhe shipping of an actor kya hota hai pta bhi nhi tha….have watched too many shows but never won’t to off screen thing …..even in kyy I was happy with onscreen ….reading stories on wattpad India forums and fb and concentrating in my studies and family ….in 2018 when I come to study saw this fc thing ….forced me too open fc for manan …too cherish them to love them …like Everyone else….but was fed with all these things…..Kabhi kissi ne bola hi nhi yeh Sab juth hai ….mai vhi ruk jati ….pani was my first off screen thing ….they were friends…and I was always. Made to belive they are dating …my fault that belive ….mai nhi bolungi ki Kissi or ki galti hai ….galti Meri maine belive kiya trust kiya ….but now I am so broken ๐Ÿ˜ญ MANAN is also not helping to heal me ….don’t know what to doo…. Kuch galat step nhi utha na …but Kuch smjh nhi arha

      1. manitavb says:

        I can feel your pain. I’m flooded with such messages.

        There were some 10-15 fans who talked to me last year after being disillusioned when Parth joined kzk and was friendly with Erica. They were getting insecure about PaNi.
        I remember counselling them that there is no PaNi and even if it has to happen, it is neither in our hands nor it should matter to us as they are both very private people. Let them live their lives.

        I’m glad those few people accepted it and moved on, so they are less hurt right now. I’m sorry, I couldn’t be there for everyone as I never knew it was that serious an issue.
        Else, I would have kept writing here and there and prepared a few of you.

        No worries. Time will heal.
        No need to rush. Things settle on their own.

        Lots of love
        Take care

  9. Ashna says:

    You know its my first experience. I have loved so many shows and couples onscreen.but i knew they r just onscreen ร md doesnt imagime anythimg blindly.but in this case the mistake happened.i got imvolved in manan so much that i dint realise it will lead to pani also.i never followed any other actors offscreen before these too.
    I knew that its going to b end like this.but again wished this to happen.But from last one and half year ,i composed myself amd keeping a distance from this shipping thing.i never believed any of those sources.its just i wanted them to be together.
    I am hurt but doesnt that much.its just a sad feeling. It will gosoon.Becz i have so many peroblems in my life to deal with currently and have a goal to achieve.
    i dreamt of them live together happily.but may be they wont b happy together as much as they are now in real.its their life.they will decide their life decisions.i am proud of them that they have earned the love of so much ppl in such a young age.
    And They put their past aside and work together for s3.i dont know if i was in their place,i wud have able to do that or not .i have heard about so many actors who deny good projects just in name of silly fights or ego.

    And Thank you for this.i wanted to hug you for this.But you are trying to give solace to so many wounded hearts.Everone will b fine with time and will come back.
    And one thing nothing can snatch MaNan from our hands.they are forever
    Sorry i dont know you will get time to read such a long reply

    1. manitavb says:

      I read each and every word written to me. I may not get time to reply but I read. The longer the message, the more heartfelt it is…

      I agree with each and every word that you said. I’m glad there are people who took it so positively and gracefully. Others will take time but I’m sure each one will get through and remember Manan for life as a beautiful part of life.

      Thanks for writing.

  10. Tanvi says:

    Plzzz all dear readers plz read my comment โคโค.

    1. I’m Feeling blessed to be a part of this one of a memorable era. Five year of smile , tears , joy , happiness , fight , prayers ,hope ,trust ,love still gonna continue . And I’m going to cherish those bonds till the end .

    Manan are forever humesha โค.

    I’m soo proud of my Pani and kyy fanmily like how they support two people without any conditions .๐Ÿ™Œ
    You guys are already a winner ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™

    You already won โค.
    It’s not easy but I really hope manan fanmily remains instant . The one thing which really connect us all plz don’t let offscreen things ruin the most beautiful on-screen for you all . Would really love love to see manan shipping once again on my TL and watch kyy manan are just to precious .

    5 years you guys proved you are undetable manan .

    2. Parth and niti these two are such a great actors like we all letrally believe in Pani just because of manan me chemistry and all credit goes to Pani . For me Pani is never gonna end becs of me manan is Pani only I’ll there true fans and will support both of them individually โค.

    It’s ok we are just shipping them as Pani and our hope is too high . Isme humre mistake nhi hai but we can cherish them na . They give us a most beautiful love story manan forever โค. Even they are friend now in the end .

    even Niti did tell that she’ll have an marriage as a parents choice . She even Sayed she will never gonna married an actor but stil we have hope .. lastly guys we should support our idol in their decisions . Let’s think about this ,Agar Woh abhi confirm nhi krte toh badme Hume aur BHI Jyda hurt hota . Don’t do anything wrong .just love them โค..

    You know I’m hurt , I’m damn hurt . I was continuously crying in those two days ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ..but now we can’t cry anymore like this ..we have to support them as before we did ..only we want there happiness ..they are happy then we are happy ..nhi ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

    I’m sooo sad to see everyone has slowed down. The activities and the vibes and so on . I don’t feel the same when I tweet cause I miss my all fanmily . Plz come back soon guys . More love , power and strength to my lovely Fandom/ fanmily โค.

    The kyy fandom / The Pani fandom / The Parth and niti fandom will always have another fanbase โค ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ.
    Because it create an impact on other and everyone and it has been inspiring to many fandom out there !!โค .
    No matter what happened but Parth and niti friendship will remains same and is forever โค
    Happiness.. to the strongest fandom even you guys are the bestest and class apart and remember that we have manan to cherish forever and no Matter what
    They are forever humesha just remember that !!
    Star will shine and fireflies will glow humesha โค๐Ÿ˜Š.

    It’s a humble request ,plzzzz don’t leave this fandom ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ.

    What hurt is to see the strongest fandom falling apart .
    The grife , the hurt , the pain .
    Our fanmily don’t deserve this at all .๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    I’m more crying because of this our lovely fanmily are leaving everything and they are shutterd ๐Ÿ˜ญ..then even Sayed , they are now gonna watch kyy onewords .they even don’t want kyys4 ..like how can they Sayed that . Firstly we all love manan first becs of manan we get Pani . How can they Sayed they will leave them . I know they are damn hurt and I’m also but for manan , for kyy fanmily plzz comeback โค๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ .
    Pani nhi hai toh kya hua manan toh hai na . Manan are forever humesha humesha โคโค ..
    Unko aur koi alag nhi kre skta hum BHI nhi , god BHI nhi.manik sirf Nandini Ka hai aur Nandini sirf manik ki . They are meant to be together โค.

    You know what , I’m also a biggggg Pani shipper .. I want to see Pani together but reality is they both are different in real life . Aur joh Woh on-screen show krte hai Woh offscreen screen nhi hai and even Parth toh niti Ka friend season 3 Mai BNA hai . They never talk eachother in season 1 and 2 ..

    You also now Jo hum chye hai Woh asane sai nhi milta ASA abhi BHI hua hai ..but kya hua we can love manan …jse other fans drishti and vivain , arnav and Khushi , Surbhi and nukuul etc. Unko love krte hai unko phire dubra dekhna chye hai aur unko support kre hai wse BHI hum kre skte hai Parth and niti Kai lye โค๐Ÿ˜‡

    3. Niti engagement :- she is looking sooo pretty n gorgeous โค๐Ÿ˜ . Soo beautiful , soo cute I’m still gonna say this again and again coz I will never gonna stop pressing her beauty โค. God bless her with loads of love and happiness . I’m soo emotional to see her video and pictures ๐Ÿ˜ญโค ..

    My respect for her is increased many folds learning that she is going to marry a front line fight in Indian army !
    I think oshe has a golden heart โค and undoubtedly a bold woman โค๐Ÿ™Œ.

    She get what she want and what she deserves . I’m soo happy for her to see her happy ๐Ÿ˜ญโค.
    She is looking sooo happy in her function and she even dancing โค.

    How can we hate such a sweetheart โค๐Ÿ˜Š.
    Guys plz don’t think anything and blame her . Just think positive .. Don’t missunderstanding her.. she loveher all fans equally .

    And liking think . She can never like that comments which hurt her fans . Just think how can she do that . Jab usko sab troll krte hai tab usne nhi Bola and usne toh other fandom say sorry BHI Bola hai jisne uski koi mistake nhi thi then how can she do this .. even she is busy in her mahendi function that day . How can she like comments. I’m talking you one think even my comment was liked my her account and her sister account as a same time then how can all Sayed that she is likely . That’s why I’m saying she didn’t do anything . Her phone is with sister and she is using her phone . She is likely all comments and reply .
    Plz don’t hate niti โค.she have a golden heart . She can never hate her fanmily specially kyy fanmily โค๐Ÿ˜Š .plz try to understand .

    And last but not the list , always remember
    That kyy is a most strongest fandom) fanmily ever have and ever I have see. โค . I want our fandom back as soon as possible got it .. I want our stardom back . The way we all trend and tweet regarding manan . The way we all shower our love towards manan , richa mam and kyy .

    Kaisi yeh yaariaan is the best show ever โค . No one can beat our manan chemistry .โค.they are still perfect with eachother โค๐Ÿ˜..

    And you write you know na you are the best friend , person , writer and fan ever . You are my most favourite writer โค๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜.. I really respect you sooooo much . I know becs of you we will
    gonna get our fandom/ family back with a bang
    And even kyys4 . Thank you for always being there for us and this Fandom when ever we need you in every most painful phase โค๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ..thank you ๐Ÿ˜โค๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ..

    You have to promise me that we will get this fandom back soon with more most strongest fandom .. I know I am being greedy but what to do becs of this kyy fandom I watched kyy show , becs of them I love manan unconditionally ,becs of them I know kyy every details ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ.and still I’m trusting you in this …

    We will get our beautiful kyy fanmily back ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญโคโค..

    Okk it’s enough .. I’m ending this longgggh comment ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญโคโค..

    Your loveonce
    Kyy/ manan / Pani / Parth – niti fan โค๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    1. Tanvi says:

      Somes writer even deside to stop writing ..Plz all writer don’t stop your story’s ..plz.. we all love manan story want to read them ..plz continue all story ..

      1. Tanvi says:

        Thanks dear for sharing this .. it’s must needed โคโค..

        1. Tanvi says:

          Dr. Manitavb

      2. manitavb says:

        I will continue ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ˜Š

        1. Tanvi says:

          โคโคโค

  11. Priya says:

    Just one word #Beautiful#

    1. manitavb says:

      ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

  12. Sk says:

    Hello Di
    I wanna get in touch with u if that’s possible!want some help n can’t get to speak to anyone!please let me know how can I Contact u!

    1. manitavb says:

      My insta id is @ manita_vb
      And wattpad id is ManitaV

      Inbox me at any place

  13. Anonymous says:

    its so true & i agree with … i know its painful but we should remember from manan we have got pani … & manan is forever and humesha

  14. Shab says:

    Hi Manita,

    Thanks for this amazing lay out , people really needed this.. yes u r right we hve lived the life seeing SRK and Kajol. And I too knew tht there was nothing between these two . But these words u hve put down was needed by many today ..

    1. Indira Kumari says:

      Hi,

      I was initially irritated with some fans bashing Niti’s partner just because their hope is shattered. Come on yaar! He is the real hero, an army person. How can these people bash him. After reading you note I could understand their thoughts.
      I was really not PaNi shipper liked them individually but I was also surprised by seeing Niti post still I don’t why. So I can understand how a real PaNi shipper might feel
      But we cannot do anything it’s their life and we have no rights to interfere, just because their are celebrity and we are fans we shouldn’t take right to decide their future. But still why there is need to connect them this much that we bash someone we don’t know. Treat them as actor not like your god. Personally we should connect if at all we want to connect we can connect to the character instead of actor who personified them.

      1. manitavb says:

        Hello Indira,

        Thanks for writing. Honestly, I do not defend any one bashing Niti or Parth in any way. No matter how much one is hurt, it is no decency to go to her happy engagement posts and take Parths name. They are not real shippers. They are morons who never loved them.
        If I love someone, I will take the entire pain myself but never hurt the other person in return… bashing them publically is out of question…
        And bashing for what?? For being happy? And not conforming to someone’s idea of love…
        I’m sure NOW people have realised that they don’t know Parth and Niti at all… not even a bit…

        So when you don’t know them, how can you ask them to be with each other…

        My post was about every genuine PaNi lover who was hurt, disappointed, still carried the pain and wished her luck. They posted wishes on her posts and were happy because she is happy. Though they are not able to move on.

        Bashers and haters have zero sympathy from me.

        And I agree with you absolutely that you should connect to characters but can’t blame teenagers who get carried away by an idea of a fairytale ๐Ÿ˜Š

        Thanks for writing…

  15. Sassytwisterroll says:

    You know you wrote the exact thing I want to hear at the moment..because I just saw Niti Taylorโ€™s official engagement announcement and I was like bro this canโ€™t be happening..since I was not ready to accept the fact that they have their own personal life which we know nothing about..and literally I was feeling so so bad but now I understand that Iโ€™m so moved by PaNi&Manan that I started hoping for them to date in real..but thereโ€™s no point in my say because at the end of day they are their own person and I canโ€™t do nothing but wish them happiness.
    Thank-you so much. Youโ€™re best.

  16. Muskaan says:

    Thank you for this ๐Ÿ™โค u explained it simply. And actually when u got to know It was like a tornado have hit me๐Ÿ˜ซ I started watching kyy back then when I was in 9th standard..at that tym i didnt exactly understood about all the real life problems they show in it. It was just that MaNan i was like wow๐Ÿ˜ they are beauty ๐Ÿ˜ i was instantly attracted by MaNan and soon addicted. Bcs I was so invested in Manan I learned name of the leads playing MaNan beautifullyโค Parth samthaan as Manik Malhotra Niti taylor as nandini murthy.and i got to know that the lead have difference and that they don’t talk even offscreen. They hate each other I was like how is that even possible to hate each other and then be MaNan๐Ÿ˜but i believed then all this and I was like that is none of my businesses ๐Ÿ˜‚whatever it is. It is none of my concern I love it when when they come together and be MaNanโค๐Ÿ˜ I love MaNan thats it. That’s what give me happiness. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜by just watching them. Then with time i got to know about this fandom and joined groups where people discussed episode daily. And then I joined insta๐Ÿ˜‚ in starting I only used to follow Manan fc. I was not a PaNi shipper.in both s1 and s2 but after kyys3 i slowly became obsessed with the idea of seeing them together in real life.it gave me immense pleasure to imagine that. U said it right when we see and believe only that which we truly want to believe. After following pani fcs my obsession just got stronger by (feels) and all the stories some fc told of then dating going together to goa.and many more. That after seeing niti post I was shocked beyond anything. Because firstly I was a Pani shipper secondly because she is little doll. So young. I was not expecting it so soon and of course that to with someone else.๐Ÿ˜‚ one side of me wanted to be happy for her. Becoz she looked genuinely happy and all glowing. PS: she looked so gorgeous ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜. But one side if me was heart broken.๐Ÿ’” sad. Really really sad. I’m now too little bit sad too. But not that much. I have uninstalled insta.but I know after some time I will be all good and fine. And when I’ll form all my heart and mind accept the reality truly. And it won’t effect me anymore. I’ll be back. But the only thing that genuinely effected me was is her liking that comment. Maybe if she would haven’t done that. I would not have uninstall insta. Instead I would have enjoying her wedding photos videos. Become I individually also love them but that one like hurted me and I started doubting her. But I think after some time maybe I’ll forget it. But u want s4 to still come.because it started with MaNan and it should also end with MaNan only. After maybe I’ll move on from Manan too. After seeing there happy endingโค๐Ÿ˜ but on 12 August 2019 my shipping ended. I won’t be shipping any actor with anyone. I won’t get this attached.thats the lesson I got. And again thank you for this. And to listen to my rant . I feel much better. ๐Ÿ™

  17. Maham Liaqat says:

    pls update twisted minds…

  18. Unnati limbachiya says:

    Thank you so much dearp u always talk positive ur every words 100% true I feel the same now I’m become More clear ND very thank you so much for giving this inspiration
    ND also please soon post next part waiting yr story I love it Kash esi story tv pe bhi ati ho u r fabulous writer ND Inspired me a lot plz soon post next part soon

  19. nakshi1990 says:

    I needs fresh dose of Manan…. An upset breaker… T & t. .

    1. manitavb says:

      I will post tomorrow…hopefully!

  20. Frozen_dew says:

    I was all tears at the end of this post. Its like.. I never prayed to get that person in my life whom I loved so much, but had prayed so that Parth and Niti get each other forever. Obviously that was not going to be true for destiny had other plans, but thanks to you for making the reality check acceptable.

    1. manitavb says:

      Destiny always has better plans!!
      Accepting them is easy once you open your mind to the beauty of happiness of people you love…
      They are happy!! So, we are!!
      Love…

  21. Aish64 says:

    Thanks a lot for this postโค
    Even I was a diehard Pani shipper till last year around the same time.. I used to believe what some FC’s were saying about them being together and all.. But later after Parth joined kzk my hopes for them started to decrease day by day.. may be that was a reality check for me to stop this and move on in life. It did hurt me so badly initially.. those days were tough! I think whatever happened, happened for good.. that actually made me strong to accept today’s reality.. and also you had told me on Wattpad to not to involve or believe in any gossips about a celeb’s personal matters.. it simply wastes your time.. they’ll keep on working hard to achieve in their lives and you’ll be left with nothing at the end.. you were right absolutely!
    And even if they would have started to date each other we still would have got to see an ample amount of what’s going on between them.. obviously their lives were not going to be on live so that we could see each and every moment of what’s going on at a very particular time.. right? Zyada se zyada we would have been happy for them.. that’s it! Nothing more than that. We can do the same thing now as well by being happy for their happiness.
    At the end I won’t be sad for shipping them.. because I’ve realised that I can love someone so much and also keep them above myself too if required. They taught me on how it feels to love someone even if you know you might or not get anything at the end..
    And also I realised, MaNan is the only constant thing that can stay with me forever โค

    Loads of love to you dii.. you are an angel ๐Ÿ˜˜โค

    1. manitavb says:

      I’m glad you learnt so many things and are already on a way to moving on!!
      I’m also glad that my words clicked with you then… and now…
      Stay happy…

      Lots and lots of love to you too!!

  22. _A_Wanderer_ says:

    Hi di!!
    This is very much needed for me…. I’m really shattered yesterday after seeing niti’s post… That I don’t even know when tears started to flow from my eyes… Usually I’m not a person who cries but I don’t know why but I cried yesterday… Maybe it is because after watching them only I got to know abt the meaning of love.. U knw I was studying only 8th STD when Kyy1 was screened.. I used to watch it in the beginning and I had fallen for it in the first itself.. It became fav show and I watched it daily… But after some days my mom said that it is not the crct age to watch it soooo don’t like that I had fought with my mom for saying this but she explained calmly that u can watch it when u urself can understand the show’s meaning and I stopped watching hopping that one day I’ll watch it again… But the few episodes I had watched mad a grt impact on me… Like whenever I see a love couple in reel I always ended up imagining Manan… I got to know the real meaning of friends and love and started to trust them is only becoz of this show especially becoz of Manan… I used to think that they were even real couple and whenever I get to see the reality na I’ll always ignore it and dreamt of them being together only!! But when everything became only dreams na my Dreamworld shattered and I can’t bear the pain… I was not new for getting disappointed it is actually a part of me like I always end up with disappoinment only… In everything even in family, friends,dreams,and now in this but still it hurts and every time I get disappointed na my hope is being broken but I always collect the broken parts and join it saying it’s ok it will also pass and u r way more strong than this to get broken due to this… Like this and u said Now also I’ll gather them and will say even now also Manan is alive by whom u had fallen in love with love …. Maybe PaNi is just like a beautiful dream which gives happiness when we think of it!!! And I’ll always admire them for who they are… Ya it’ll take tym but I’ll be ok soon…

    And I’m really very happy for our TayBae… She’s such cute pure soul and she deserves every bit of happiness in the world โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’•โค๏ธโค๏ธ… May the Almighty blesses her with all the goodness and love in the world with her partner… May they be United for forever… Congrats Niti!!! And I wish Party also a happy and great life ahead…

    All the best to the both!!โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜Š
    We all still love you and always will!!!โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿ–คโ™ฅ๏ธ

    Huff!!! Now I’m feeling like I had lifted a burden from my heart thanks for hearing out my rants… And ur post is very motivational and it helped me a lot!!…

    Thanks for being there for us always selflessly…. U r really the purest soul… May the Almighty blesses you and your family with all the happiness health and love in the world…๐Ÿ–คโ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿ–ค….

    But still I need ur help in something can u help in me in pulling my broken ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’” parts together due to some other things?? Can we talk?

    1. manitavb says:

      Of course, we can talk!
      You can message me anytime… I promise, I’ll be there…

      Also, I’m glad you are trying to move on!
      8th standard was a small age. Your mom was right but you got influenced nevertheless. I don’t blame you.
      Most of Manan fans are teens who graduated to be adults with them. Their face of love is Manan… and hence – Pani!

      message me, whenever you want to talk!

  23. Anonymous says:

    Inta bada kese likti plz write in short lamba padna boring lagta ๐Ÿ™„

    1. manitavb says:

      When you find things boring, you need not write it … there is always an option to – SKIP

      I’m sorry, I cannot change the way I write to suit everyone ๐Ÿ™‚

  24. hinuthakkar11 says:

    Hey dii i have msged u on Instagram plz see it once u get the time as the msg is too damn long๐Ÿ™ˆ

    1. manitavb says:

      I’ve been trying to reply to everyone! I was too busy today with a hectic schedule.
      Apologies for keeping you waiting!

      1. hinuthakkar11 says:

        Arey dii i was the one whom u talked to sometime before hinu_1102 that was me only๐Ÿ˜„

        1. manitavb says:

          I know that ๐Ÿ™‚
          Ek hi hinu ko janti hu… I was just saying ki sorry, I was late in replying ๐Ÿ˜€

          1. hinuthakkar11 says:

            Haha okay I thought u thought of some other one๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜‚
            Nd dii plz donโ€™t say sorry we know how much busy u got bcz of ur schedule plus that sudden incident nd so many msgs must have flooded u๐Ÿ˜…so thatโ€™s alright if u reply late to anyone..we can really understand..๐Ÿ˜€

  25. Anonymous says:

    Thank u sooo much for this..๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

    1. manitavb says:

      Thank you!
      Take care ๐Ÿ™‚

  26. Archana says:

    Hi,
    Well said dear. I understand fans frustrations as most of them are very young to understand life is different from the stories or television series. Based on my observation I felt that they were probably attracted to each other but not at the same time though like I feel initially Niti liked Parth. It he was in a relationships so that didnโ€™t happen then came the worst phase where they were not even talking to each other. By the time the things sorted out Niti was more mature and little grownup too and they became friends (which is a big thing and I always appreciate both of them for taking this step cuz itโ€™s not easy to forget the public humiliation and move on) I feel by the end of season 3 Parth was probably little attracted to Niti but she was not reciprocating his feelings maybe she was at a different phase of her life that time. I knew the are not together as they never gave any sign and also denied it too. All I want to say is donโ€™t have expectations and rules for them appreciate them as individuals and support them you will feel much better and can move on from this phase and as they say time is the best healer.

    1. manitavb says:

      We can always speculate various theories! And like I always say – We don’t know them. We can never know!

      You are right – Time heals!!

  27. Lakshita says:

    The line that said in the parallel universe manan are still together. I almost cried ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ˜ญ but reading this already makes me feel better. I have been reading tweets In the hope to find something to read that makes me feel better and i did found it. Thankyou so much for this ๐Ÿ’•

    1. manitavb says:

      Glad that you are feeling better!
      Lots of love to you ๐Ÿ™‚

  28. ritagrg43 says:

    I feel so light now. Thank you so much Dr.Manita Di for your post. I was sleepless last night because of #Niti news. I will only appreciate their onscreen presences. It will take some time to heal my heart but I will move on eventually. I will praises only
    #MaNan not #PaNi.

    1. manitavb says:

      That is all that you need right now – Time to heal and willingness to move on, without any bitterness, without malice.
      Manan are here to stay!

  29. Anonymous says:

    You are God’s special child

    1. manitavb says:

      I’m just a human being who learnt a lot from life and is trying to give something back so that young minds do not waste away in something not worth their tears.
      Thank you

  30. Apurva says:

    Thanks a lot….even though was clear that they are 2 seperate individuals their chemistry keep on dragging me for them being ONE. But yes now I have to get it over as it is one’s individual decision to be happy and we should respect it. As you said let us take time. Not necessary to look for drastic solutions. Infact be positive that we can still enjoy them together thru your stories.

    1. manitavb says:

      So sweet of you. I can read positivity and acceptance in this comment.
      So proud of you!
      Stay happy! Keep smiling

  31. chandrasan says:

    And yes, PaNi aka MaNan is all time favorite. Manan forever, hamesha and the feels will remain same. We are not going to stop loving Ur creation MaNan and ManAn hahaha until you complete this story, until we buy your book to cherish for life..

    1. manitavb says:

      I will not stop writing on Manan… One story will follow the other and all will be published

      1. chandrasan says:

        That’s the happy news for us yayieee ๐Ÿ˜˜โคโคโค๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ

  32. chandrasan says:

    At the same time , I can’t understand y few ppl who were mocking the shippers. It was their choice to ship two individual staying in the limit. There are sane shippers who never crossed that line and were genuine, positive ( without posting stuffs like feels, etc ) They never did that, if the same ppl are venting out their hurt which I never witnessed from that particular ppl. We should try to understand them , let them take their time to come out of this. Yes, in an impulse they did said things like ” they can’t watch MaNan ” the same way which they used do. It was wrong but at this time they can’t think straight, every individual could have gone through this. Let us be there for them , give them the comfort and take them out of the mess ( like you do ) and stop mocking them. PS : I am not talking abt immature fans who still talk shit in her post. That girl is having her best and imp moment of her life , few of them are still taking parth name which is not acceptable and ridiculous.

    1. manitavb says:

      Stupid are those people who spread negativity on someone’s engagement posts by taking another guy’s name and their delusions…
      They never loved either Parth or Niti!
      They just loved their own egoes and nonexistent ships.

      Rest all genuine fans who wanted to see them together but now wishing her the best have all my heart!!
      They truly know the meaning of love and accepting her happiness as their own.
      Stay blessed!

      1. chandrasan says:

        Yes, genuine fans took some time with this news but they came out wishing for her happiness. I think we should appreciate them the most. Cos I believe ppl who behave sane and positive during the most hard and tough situations are GENUINE and mature fans. Coz it ain’t easy, 5 yrs of shipping that hurts badly but they came out wishing good for niti. Lots of love to themโค

  33. chandrasan says:

    Coming back to the real problem!! I left shipping like an year ago and it is for good coz it does not affect me that much. I was ready for this because we know and we see many things happening in front of our eyes which showed a clear picture that ” BOTH ARE NOT TOGETHER “. Its absolutely wrong to blame Parth and Niti for the mess which we created. I believe both gave hints then and there confirming that they are dating different ppl. Ex : Niti did hinted out twice about dating a guy from Goa ( dont want to mention the name) I may be wrong but it was true she dated different guy. Few shippers deliberately ignored, its fine but they cant go against NITI and showing like she betrayed them. I can’t understand y fans are accusing her when she was so clear that
    1. She wont date any actor or someone from industry -> She was true and sticked to that.
    2. Few articles did came where she denied about dating Parth ( If the article is trust able then she was correct from her side)
    3. she had formal friendship with parth.
    4. Liking the comment -> I don’t think niti liked it coz yesterday when she was busy her friends were using her phone. May be someone could have liked it. We can’t judge her based on that.

    1. Unnati limbachiya says:

      True dear I m feeling same uske us time phone check Karne ka time kaha se hoga uske friend ya kisi aur ne Kiya hoga

    2. manitavb says:

      All true!

  34. chandrasan says:

    This message is much needed and it is coming from the BEST PERSON in this fandom. You are an inspiration for a reason. It is rare to find someone like you who analyze two sides of a coin and giving honest opinions. Thank you MaNan who brought us together. Loads of love to you for putting up this message and explaining everything in a sensible manner. God bless you Di..

    1. manitavb says:

      God bless you too dear!
      Loads of love to you!

      1. chandrasan says:

        โคโค

  35. piya66 says:

    Thank you so much ..I needed it ๐Ÿ˜ญโค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      I knowwww!!!!!
      And that is why I wrote it… stay calm and you will see that you already feel better!

  36. Sneha singh says:

    It was really needed , finally I can move on from pani. Even i know somewhere that there is nothing between them but u know na dil hai ki manta nahi . I tried so hard to leave this ship but couldn’t able to do so . I wasn’t crying until I saw the comments on Twitter . Even my friends were hurt then one of them said that we should move on and focus on Manan because that is from where our journey was started, then we should end it with Manan . Now I felt that a burden came down from my chest but it will take some time , everything will be normal again. When the situation will be right we will again start the trend .

    1. manitavb says:

      You are right. It takes time but eventually all hurt and all pain mellows down.
      Everything will be normal!

  37. Sarmista says:

    Hey Dr. Manita.. Thank u for this post.. So true n motivating..Honestly whatever happened yesterday never bothered me much because I was never a pani shipper in true sense..for me MaNan mattered most.. But I was soo sad to see all the dissappointing post from my kyy mutual.. I was hurt to see them soo hurt.. People with whom I shared my happiness n smile was so broken..This is wht hurted me the most.My kyy frnds n there happiness is alwys more important for me then Parth n Niti.. Hope to see those smiling face back again in future. Till then I m ready to wait to let this phase past.. Thanks a lot for being their with us alwys

    1. manitavb says:

      Same with me. I was hurt to see my mutuals hurt and when people starting contacting me, I felt like hugging them.
      Most of the Manan fans are teenagers or youngsters who learnt the first experience of love with them. So I don’t blame them.

      In fact, I have been counselling people since last year, whenever anyone contacted me, hurt about Parth doing KZK or his personal stories.
      Honestly, it is nothing to be so bothered. The fact that they are sharing moments of their lives with fans is to show love and appreciation for fans. They don’t need to do this, and they shouldn’t bashed for that…

      I really hope the smiles come back to where it all began – Kyy and MaNan!

  38. Muskan says:

    You know when this news of Niti’s marriage came out I got to know about it through some kyy fc she was very upset so I asked ki kya hua and she told me about it and I was shocked not because I wanted niti to be with parth but because it came out as a god damn surprise where no one really expected her to get marry so soon.. And tbh I was happy from inside for her bcs I always knew that Pani were never a thing infact when I started watching kyy i never had this desire to see them together offscreen as well.. I toh didn’t even knew the meaning of shipping that’s why I say I grew up with them.. But I was in this random group 2 years back who used to discuss about this show ,about pani in FB from there I learned it still I never really believed anyone of them bcs one can clearly see that how different the reality is.. But I had this one friend from that group which I used to talk till yday and she used to feed me with every possible gossip of pani be it offscreen or onscreen and I being the foolish one I believed her so many times… because she was elder than me and I used to respect her alot and in that emotion I used to always believed what she used to tell me.. But the sane part of my mind always used to knock me to never believe her bcs her talks used to be so rubbish and full of bluffing still I did and that’s were I lost my mind I think.. Still I was okay with it…as despite 100s of people telling out their that they r together it was always clear from their side that they r not.. So I was okay but after this nitis marriage thing I finally asked her about all these nonsense and the so called sources she is getting all these news from about which she never told me..obviously she was still in denial and she fired me back so yeah that’s how someone true colour came out infront of me bcs she said some really hurtfull things to me which made me wonder that was it always only for Pani and their lifes and nothing beyond that?? Obviously now I know it was never a friendship from her side it was always about Pani and their non existent nonsense stories for her. Anyways..Now coming to the actual part so more than this whole pani not being together matter what hurted me the most was that there was no one with whom I could share my feelings you know bcs her words really affected me and I genuinely thought that SNS is very toxic and people change their colour in seconds here and I always longed for a person like u to be my friend with whom I could at least share my thoughts and put up my opinion with full freedom and u won’t ever judge me.. That’s why when I read this i couldn’t stop myself from sharing all this.. Bcs a burden from my chest has been lifted off.. I was holding this since 2 days..i know bhaut lamba how gya..sorry!!๐Ÿ™ˆAnd yk…ghar pe bhi toh nhi bol sakti na.. Bcs They’ll think I am mad ๐Ÿ˜‚ so thank you for thinking so much about us and writing this out.. Its really very sweet Manita di.. โค also I am very happy for Niti as well as for parth. May all get over with this heartbreak very soon bcs life is very precious!! โค

    1. manitavb says:

      I’m so glad you shared it here.
      I’ve had 2 more people telling me about some sources that claim stories of PaNi being a thing.
      I’ll tell you what I told them – “I will only believe when they confirm it themselves. Everything else is just speculation. And to be honest, if I go by my own instincts, they are NOT dating. That’s it!!’

      No one knows the future. You never know what happens. But for now, they are not!

      I don’t usually get involved in group things so I can’t comment or blame anyone. But it is wise to get a neutral pov.

      I’m glad you could shed your burden here. I am always there if you want to talk to someone. I’ve been doing that and will continue to do so.

      I don’t judge anyone. Neither fans, nor actors. We all are humans. We make mistakes We learn from them.
      No one has the right to crucify us just because we made a mistake or trusted people or were hurt.

      Take care.
      Lots of love ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Anonymous says:

        Thank you for always being there, you are a gem of a person ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

        1. manitavb says:

          Thank you. I’m just an older sis, slightly more experienced, nothing else!
          And I’ll always be there!

  39. Surerayna says:

    Manan forever โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธbtw update soon plz

    1. manitavb says:

      Of course, Manan forever!!
      I will update soon… not able to write as I didn’t get time since Sunday ๐Ÿ™‚

  40. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much dii โค๏ธ. Every word you have written is so true. Our Fandom is blessed to have you โค๏ธ. And MaNan is for forever Hamesha โค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      I am blessed to be part of this lovely, adorable fandom ๐Ÿ™‚

  41. Nikita says:

    It was much needed post. I was hard core pani shipper . There was a time when we longed to see them even look at each other properly in season 1 and 2 and now in season 3 they became such good friends what more we could ask for. I know somewhere deep down in my heart that this day will arrive just never expected this early. But Manan is forever. I respect their choices completely but it is very hard to accept this fact. Love for me still holds the same meaning as it did before but I have learnt one thing don’t expect anything. You can dream but don’t expect it to get fulfilled. Pani for me ended yesterday but Manan will be forever. Thank you so much did for such inspiring words. Yesterday I did cry but today I feel much better and trust me I wish both of them all the happiness in the world. There is nothing that time can’t heal, this phase will pass too. We have to move on.

    1. manitavb says:

      I’m glad you are feeling better today and wish them the best!
      I have never met one single true fan who has ever wished bad for any of them. Thankfully, no toxic shipper has ever contacted me.

      Nothing in this world stays forever… at least not pain!!
      This phase will pass.
      We are stronger than this.

  42. lovepeehu says:

    Yes we are blessed with the Bestโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      You are so sweet ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. lovepeehu says:

        you deserve sweetness only …our happy maker , guardian Angel๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค— much much needed note for everyone … thank-you for writing ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

  43. Madhuri53 / Madhuri Kulkarni says:

    Totally agree. We get disappointed when our fav Jodi doesn’t get together. It is like we live in fantasy land of them. But the reality is always different from fantasy.
    Though I liked their Jodi and love to see them together, I never expected them to be together. I knew they were never a couple. They had differences bet them, though they sorted out and now friends.
    It’s wise decision to move on and keep them in our memories only.

    1. manitavb says:

      The best part is this – where have you seen 2 people with a bitter past, sort out differences and become friends, stay friends not for the sake of show but after that too. Comment on each other’s post long after show is over.

      Usually, it is either a show-off to keep the buzz going or fake.
      PaNi didn’t do that thankfully.

      S3 was a closure for them.
      S4 will hopefully be closure for us too… hope it comes!

  44. Pooja says:

    This is very beautifully explained… ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’• hope this perception gives a new and much required boost to ppl and shows them the right direction.. our fandom is blessed to have uโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      I always say that I am blessed to have this fandom Pooja…
      They know how to love, love unconditionally with all their heart and they know how to survive harshest of truths…
      I know they will never stop supporting both Parth and Niti, even when they have separate lives.

      1. Pooja says:

        Exactly it may take some time for few.. but our love for them is so much more that we wil never stop loving them๐Ÿ’• they came into our life as MaNan but they also made a place in our heart as the real self I.e. Parth and Niti โค๏ธour love for them will never change โค๏ธ

        1. manitavb says:

          Never!!
          May God bless them both for giving us beautiful moments to cherish for life!

  45. Anonymous says:

    I completely agree with you Manita. It’s true we would have loved to see them together…but life doesn’t work like this. But nevertheless…we can still get Pani/ Manan feels from your stories…that is our world which won’t break. To the people who are hurt right now…even I also was shocked and sad for some time…infact now also…but let’s congratulate Niti for the new beginnings of her life. She has chosen what is right for her and she has all rights to do that . After all it’s her life. Yes…Manan has always helped us to destress and hopefully we can still relive those moments in that stories written on them, KYY series and hopefully any other projects if ever they come together.
    A suggestion…the way to keep urself away from sadness right now, keep urself away from all things which upsets you…I have deactivated my insta for some time…that’s my way…for different people it can be different things…after sometime, we will also accept things the way they are…
    Till then…Manita please keep updating us with your stories whenever possible…thanks ya.

    1. manitavb says:

      I will keep updating and none of my stories will stop.
      Let’s stop our fangirling till Manan … and let’s wish Niti the best in her life… she is looking like an angel in her engagement party!

  46. Banshri Rana says:

    Goddd!!!! This is so deep & much needed , finally!! Tearyeyed๐Ÿ˜ข

    1. manitavb says:

      All my love goes to you!!
      take care and stay blessed …

  47. Muskan says:

    This feeling canโ€™t be explained only solution is to move on . Accept the reality. Also what are all Manan pani fans are going through can only be felt people related to this fandom, thank you for your post dii . Means a lot . I feel obliged that somewhere I am related to you , be it only as your reader . Manan is forever โ™พ

    1. manitavb says:

      I feel blessed too…
      … to be connected in some way or the other to people who know how to love beyond their own self!
      And I will always listen and try to understand…

  48. Anu says:

    Hi, I believe the same, niti repeatedly said she never dated Parth or anyone from the industry. Just be happy for them, we can not tolerate if someone even tryโ€™s to tell us to do a small thing in life and here we are expecting someone to end with a person for the rest of their life , thatโ€™s too much. Waiting for your update , please do.

    1. manitavb says:

      Absolutely!! Anyone who blames or bashes Niti is stupid.
      She never ever misguided fans… She in fact, very clearly told that she will get married to a non-actor, which her parents will choose and she denied dating Parth. Always!!!

      PS: I will update soon… couldn’t write for 2 days…

  49. shygal9 says:

    Anddddd Yes MaNan is forever till the stars shineโค๐Ÿ˜ญ
    Hamesha and Forever ๐Ÿ’–

    1. manitavb says:

      True – MaNan is here to stay!!! Forever!!

  50. shygal9 says:

    Exactly.. Even I knew they were not dating and they are very professional with each other.. Only wishing each other on important occasions but still it hurts I don’t why..Maybe because it is happening all of a sudden.. Nobody expected her to get married so soon..But it’s her life her choice.

    1. manitavb says:

      Almost everyone told me that they couldn’t accept the suddenness!
      Yes, it feels like a member of kyy family is going away… Accept it like a kiddo grew up to form her own nest.
      It’s her life!
      Lets wish her the best that life can offer… happiness, health and good luck!

  51. KUDRAT says:

    Manita didiiiiii
    Love you ๐Ÿ˜˜โค๏ธ
    Nd Yessss
    #manan_forever_humesahumesa_๐Ÿ’•

    1. manitavb says:

      Love you too dear!!
      Manan and Manan … only… Forever!!

  52. Gursheen says:

    I so wanted to talk to you yesterday itself but couldn’t gather myself. I was literally crying while reading it. Each and every word made sense to me. I can’t thank you enough for always being there for us.
    A year back I was at this place when parth decided to do kasauti and o started feeling paranoid what if he starts liking his Co star and alll those silly things. I couldn’t take it anymore and unfollowed him, starting blocking pictures and fcs related to his show and with time o was ok. And now again I’m so so upset not because she is getting married to someone else. I’m happy for them. The girl deserves all the happiness. I knew it somewhere deep down that they are not together and it’d going to hurt real bad some day.. I never knew the day would come this soon. It’s hard for me to accept it and make peace with it. I don’t know what to do. Please help me. Guide me to get over them.
    It feels as if someone has just ripped off my heart. I can’t take it.
    I need help to move on.

    1. manitavb says:

      I really hope that you are feeling better now!
      It was a busy hectic day for me and then there were a truck load of messages… I am trying to reply to everyone…

      Why didn’t you message me yesterday??! I talked to so many people yesterday. I never knew you were so hurting!

      We can talk if you want…any time… just drop a message…

      1. Gursheen says:

        I’m trust me. And it’s all because of you. I just want to give you a tight hug for always being there despite being so so busy.
        I’m still a little sad and I think it’s just a matter of time and this too shall pass.
        Can you help what I can do to keep myself distracted?

        1. manitavb says:

          I was just sending you a message on insta…

  53. Pixie pari says:

    That was lovely dii…as i alrwdy said yout stories are true proof that patience and hardwork will definitely pay off if not today

    1. manitavb says:

      True!! No substitute to patience and hard work in the right direction!

  54. sd6324 says:

    I was really waiting for your say on this because I knew you will surely say somethings which would definitely make us feel better … All I can say is Thank you for always being so positive & explaining these life lessons so beautifully . Manan is forever & will always cherish it .

    1. manitavb says:

      Thank you for reading, trusting me and considering me worthy of giving an opinion.
      Means a lot!

  55. Such a relief words โคโค

    1. manitavb says:

      Love you loads ๐Ÿ™‚

  56. Bindu says:

    Such a positive person you are..much needed post..Lots of love to you and keep writing Manan stories..we can atleast relive manan moments through your beautiful stories ..Thanks much for this post

    1. manitavb says:

      I will keep writing Manan stories. All my stories will continue.

  57. Geet says:

    You said so many things very simply but it hit me deep ..
    Actually your words are surely gonna help me in different path of life.
    Thank you for thinking so much๐Ÿ˜Š
    It means a lot

    1. manitavb says:

      Thanks a lot for hearing them out and considering them.
      Take your time. But do bounce back stronger!
      Keep smiling!

  58. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for saying this…this was much needed for everyone…..I was upset only little bit yesterday and now i am ok totally because i think we should give more importance to our lives rather than giving them…. they don’t even know us that we exist then why to think about them๐Ÿคท….lastly it all started with Manan and it should end at manan only

    1. manitavb says:

      Exactly… it begin with Manan… they were not even friends, then… and it shouldn’t end… but stay at Manan ๐Ÿ˜€

      Glad that you are okay today! It’s important to take care of yourself before others.

  59. Pavani says:

    Thank you so much for posting this di from yesterday I am feeling so restless bcoz of this news ,both parth and niti never asked us to ship them,niti herself told us many times in her interviews that she wants someone out of industry,but we shippers never took it seriously.After s2 the only dream of pani shippers was to see them together again ,and to be friendly with each other(which is quiet impossible at that time bcoz of their differences).when s3 came everyone was so happy and the hope for them being together increased .It will take sometime to get used to all of this,time will heal everything.

    1. manitavb says:

      You wrote it so nicely dear!
      You are right – they never asked us to ship them…they always refused any relationship! But like I said, we believe what we want to believe.

      Never too late…
      It is the right time to accept that we can’t blame them and wish Niti the best in her life. That doll has suffered a lot at the hands of bashers and haters… May she have the best of her time in life, ahead!

      1. Pavani says:

        Yes di even I am so happy for her. At last she found her man of dreams,and her new family seems to be really good people.

  60. Anonymous says:

    You voiced all my thoughts regarding this issue๐Ÿ˜Š… am so happy for niti taylor!…
    She got her manik in her REAL life.. this is a happy news!

    1. manitavb says:

      Absolutely!!! I’m so proud of her. She got an amazing man in her life!
      God bless her…

  61. Anonymous says:

    Very well said … โฃโฃ

    1. manitavb says:

      Thank you!

  62. anmolawasthi767 says:

    Rightly said ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

    1. manitavb says:

      Thank you

  63. krinal310 says:

    Thank you souch Dii….you helped me a lot and yes, I am ready to accept this reality and I will always love MaNan no matter what coz they made me believe in hope and true love….thanks a ton !

    1. manitavb says:

      Hugs and kisses for you with all the best wishes ….Always!!!

      1. krinal310 says:

        Yes…beyond them as parth and niti , i have my personal life and when I havey all rights to choose all things for me than they have that right too…yrs we loved them onscreen and we will always do .. it’s not bad to think that kaash,They will end up together but it’s like not every dream has to fulfill and you said right that they are too perfect to be real .so we will cherish them as MaNan always, coz in parallel universe, they still belongs to each other…..

        1. manitavb says:

          Too perfect to be real!!!
          Right??
          We will always remember this ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

          1. krinal310 says:

            Yes for a lifetime…..but it’s okay series hurt hona bhi jaruri hai..har baar hum chahe wahi ho yeh jaruri toh nahi ..It’s all about expectations…woh Kam hogi utna hi achcha hoga

            1. manitavb says:

              Hugs for that!! Stay strong and things will fall into place ๐Ÿ™‚

            2. krinal310 says:

              Sometimes*

  64. Anonymous says:

    So true, we love pani because of manan unke differences to phele bhi the but phir bhi hum manan ko kitna adore karte the aur hamesha karte rahenge, ab to hame kush hona chahiye ki wo good friends ban gaye hai aur ek dusre ke naye projects mein ek dusre ka saath dete hai , haan pani ke liye bhi hope thi but koi nahi wo log bohot kush hai isme hame bhi kush hona chahiye ,mere liye phele hamesha manan raha hai aur hamesha rahega
    Thank you manuta for this post โค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      Well said!!
      They had differences intially…but did that stop people from loving them??
      I watched KYY in 2017 and at that time, I was told that the lead pair doesn’t get along and there were all sorts of news about Parth.
      That didn’t stop me from loving them as they are perfect examples of storytelling and enacting. They define perfection, individually and together!!

      And 2018 was a surprise for me. they became friends. We should be happy!!

  65. maniknandini1 says:

    It was needed message to all of us.. Not only because of the news but in general also.. Sometimes we give extra importance to this things whom we shouldn’t. And at the end remained broken. Your every word is true di. Now we should think about our own self. They are happy in their life. And again they have given us MaNan to whom we will love our whole life and no one can snatch that right from us. And instead I will thank them because of them I got such a pure heart person as my Di. Who always stand their whenever I need her. ๐Ÿ’ž
    Thank you soo much di. For being their and for motivating us.. No one can explain this better than you. ๐Ÿฅฐ
    Stay bless ๐Ÿ’ซ

    1. manitavb says:

      You too stay blessed!!
      You will always find me around… I’m not going anywhere ๐Ÿ˜€

      1. maniknandini1 says:

        Yeah… ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค— I don’t want anything now..

  66. Anonymous says:

    Well said Manita! I am a big fan of MaNan and PaNi. They look good together on-screen. Off-screen, they are totally two different people. And I am happy in all the work they do, together or not. And I support them in everything they do.

    1. manitavb says:

      And I really hope and wish all fans become that mature and happy!!!
      We love them. We should pray for them and be happy with whatever they do!

  67. Rashmi says:

    Ur words are true๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜. Thanks for the motivation ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

  68. Anonymous says:

    Ur words are true๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜. Thanks for the motivation ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    1. manitavb says:

      Talk to me if you are still aren’t convinced ๐Ÿ™‚

  69. ~Shiv~ says:

    This is so sweet and amazing! Many need to read this and find new horizons. One thing I can tell from personal experience is that thereโ€™s nothing in life from which you canโ€™t move on. Thereโ€™s always something waiting for you.

    MaNan are way way way beyond all this chaos โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      EXACTLY!!!!
      MaNan are something that even Parth, Niti and RY cannot recreate again in another space…
      They are way beyond every negativity and chaos…

  70. Ritu agarwal says:

    Hi i want to ask u that wat was that that we saw in them.spark nd tjeir body language.kyy3 is the proof .that intimation that both have for each other seen in their scenes their kisses.i dnt know wats got them here but pani was their definetly..
    Plz clear my views if i m wrong..

    1. manitavb says:

      I don’t know if I can explain that… but I will try…

      Like I said, we see what we want to see. I saw the chemistry but I knew that they were not real.
      Why others saw it –
      1. They are good people in general. I strongly believe that Parth and Niti are genuine nice people, no matter what people say about them. I go with vibes and they may make mistakes but they are genuinely good at heart. When such people are around, they automatically connect. They become friends. They look at each other in a way that says that they wish nothing but the best for the other because they connect.

      2. Acting well, is added to that.
      They can create chemistry with anyone… I also believe that.

      Rest was, just speculation.

      ( I’ll give you an example – In the kiss scene before lovemaking in S3, Niti was passive and does not kiss him back. And it is very clear. Watch it again. That very moment, I knew that there is nothing mutual between them)

  71. Lopamudra says:

    I do feel a hollow inside me but nonetheless I won’t blame them for what happened. Even in certain field I did see that they were completely two different individuals who were brilliant in creating a couple forever for us made a mark. Let’s keep it like that. From today onwards I will be only happy for manan posts and manan stories. No individuals liking for me… No niti and no parth. Last night I did see a post niti liking a comment which was a joke on pani fc. Even before parth blocked pani fcs. So it’s completely clear that they’re not appreciating this things. So why to even bother them with our likes and comments.

    1. manitavb says:

      Lets be fair to them.

      How will you feel if someone ships you with your colleague or friend? In glamour industry, it is acceptable and normal…
      But still, they have gone through a LOT than we can imagine just because of some immature shippers.
      Niti was bashed so much. She was criticized for going out with male friends.
      Parth’s female friends were bashed and the way people go out of their way to talk about their personal lives… I guess, they have been graceful and tolerant about it and always told not to do all this, in very polite words.

      But they haven’t they suffered enough…

      Even I was upset first both the times – Path blocking fcs and Niti liking the comment of 2 min silence for shippers

      But then I thought about it rationally – If they really did it, even then I will first think that they are humans too. They have emotions, good days, bad days… and they didn’t mean it for all fans… it was only for immature, abusive delusional people who want others to live according to them…

      Niti and Parth are not heartless to do it to people who genuinely love them. Think of yourself different from those abusive people and you will be back to loving them again!

      1. Lopa says:

        Manita I can understand some people bashed them which even the Fandom has condemned we all supported them unconditionally. stars are made by the fans but after everything is done you start to sideline them. I really happy for niti for taking a step ahead for her happiness as I can imagine staying in metro Mumbai without work is hard and they both have faced the hard times for getting work, they need to choose their options.

        But my heart is not gonna look forward to their activities and posts anymore. I can never appreciate insensitivity towards fans who made them stars.

        1. manitavb says:

          I can totally feel you!
          I will still choose to believe that my vibes were not wrong. I don’t know them personally but I connected with the radiance they emit naturally!
          They are not bad people… they are nice people!

          Also, I usually stay away from off screen posts and activities.

  72. lovelyrashu says:

    Exactly what I was thinking that they are two different individuals and we don’t even know them in real to decide that they are perfect for each other as we only see what they show us. And one side we don’t want any interference of our very own parents or other relatives in our lives and other side we expect them to be
    together just because we like it that way, we are none to comment or criticize at their choices their personal life is none of our business. We wanted them together but they are happy with their choices so we must accept and move on because for their genuine fans only their happiness should matter.

    1. manitavb says:

      Exactly!! They are a perceived image and let them stay at that – Fictional…imaginary!!
      In real, their happiness lies not in each other,…

  73. Atrija says:

    This was so so needed and in all honesty, your posts feel like the ray of sunshine on a gloomy day. Thank you for being there, always. Youโ€™re like an elder sister to so many of us and itโ€™s so mentally comforting to have you. I hope you continue to write the stories and we get to live different versions of MaNan through your lines. Love always.๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐ŸŒธ

    1. manitavb says:

      Thank you so much for considering me an elder sis!! means a lot to me…
      My stories will never stop and I will keep writing even if no one reads them ๐Ÿ™‚

  74. aartij says:

    Very well said. Our idea of perfect is not everybodyโ€™s perfect. Loved every word you said. This is not just for the characters you mentioned ,all this holds so true in real life too๐Ÿ˜ u not only write well dear doctor but u are a very motivating and inspiring person with your wise words๐Ÿ˜˜it teaches so much. Thankyou for existing.โฃ๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      I just give back what I have learnt from life. Thank you for reading and giving me a chance to interact with you!!
      Lots of love

  75. Anonymous says:

    Amazing girllll waiting for ur stories never stop

    1. manitavb says:

      My stories will never stop ๐Ÿ™‚

  76. Diviya says:

    Yess no one can explain better than this doc, I am really waiting for this post. Manan forever and alwaysโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    1. manitavb says:

      Love you so much!!
      Manan forever and always ๐Ÿ˜€

      1. Diviya says:

        Haha yes forever and alwaysโ™ฅ๏ธ

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