I had planned for a post on ‘My Corner’ to be on every Saturday!! But apparently, we can plan nothing in life… and it’s cool 🙂
It’s my blog and I am allowed to write as and when I feel like… Right? 🙂
I couldn’t write any update or anything worth posting for last two days because I was talking to so many of disappointed fans who were hoping for something and were left heartbroken… and you have no idea how many times I have typed the same things again and again…
Then I realised, maybe there are people who are not able to get in touch with me but need me. Hence, this post!
Also… Try and pass on this post to someone who needs it…
Hopes & Dreams: Broken and Otherwise
I have grown up adoring Shah Rukh Khan and his work in my teenage. So, obviously, Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge was a staple in my list of evergreen favourites.
There is a dialogue in that movie, DDLJ, where Kajol is upset and tells her mom that it was a waste to dream and hope. The reply her mom, Farida Jalal, gave her hit me deep! At that time and it still stays with me, even after so many years!
It has become a basis of the way I deal with my aspirations and try to pass on the same to my daughters. I will write the exact dialogue in Hindi.
Her mother says – “Sapne dekho, jaroor dekho… magar unke pura hone ki shart mat rakho!”
(Translation – Do continue to dream. But never lay a condition that they will be fulfilled. )
Dreams and Hopes are a person’s way to look at the future. They are the basis of our happiness, energy to work hard and keep striving till you get what you deserve. Sometimes, we dream of things which are not in our hands. We can only hope for the same.
A lot of people are so negative that they have lost the power of hoping and dreaming… about anything in life. They are cynical – About their own lives, country, society, professions and everything in general.
Some are optimistic, hopeful and positive. And they hope for the best… Always!!
Some go beyond the normal periphery and dream of impossible. It is not wrong. Not at all wrong.
Like I always say – When you dream, go to the extreme!!
Why dream of less?! You are not being charged for the same. You are not losing anything by just hoping and dreaming. So why limit yourself??
But if your dreams interfere with your ability to accept that – ‘It maybe… can be… will be broken someday…’, then it becomes a problem. You can continue to dream and hope till you can handle the shattered mess of the same.
I am writing all this because I was shaken by some people who said that – ‘I will never love someone, so much, ever again…’ … or… ‘I have lost faith in love and hopes and dreams…’
It’s a big statement!!
What did you do to give such harsh punishment to yourself and change your personality? Two people look so good together and create chemistry that makes people want them to be in love. They look good in one frame, so it is obvious to want to keep looking at them in one frame.
But they are not in love. Some people thought that they were dating but they were not. They never did.
You see what you want to see. You believe what you want to believe. You were not wrong there. You were simply fogged out by love. You loved them so much that you wanted to see them together. Allow yourself to accept this fact.
NEVER let anyone tell you that you were stupid, or silly, or wrong!!! No, you were not!!!
I pity those who have lost all ability to love. They criticize others for being positive and hoping and dreaming! You haven’t… You loved people more than dreams for your own self! You won there. So, it is not wrong to love two people who gave you so much happiness, taught you the meaning of love, hope, and belief.
But if they don’t feel the same, it is not anyone’s fault!! Is it?? Why think that two real people will behave the way, you want them to.
Even, I love them a lot. Equally… Individually…Together!!
I always knew that they are not together. I could clearly see it. I said the same to someone a few months ago when she told me that they are dating. I said – ‘No, I don’t think so! Because I can see that they are not. I don’t misunderstand their friendly gestures to each other.’
But that doesn’t stop me from imagining them as the perfect muse for my creations. Their association is imaginary and only creative, limited to professional capacity, but enough to make me happy to create a Universe where things look perfect!
Storytelling is all about that. I tell you perfect stories and they make us feel good and live in them. We all know that they are not true. Does it stop us from reading and writing fiction? All films, all books, all TV shows are the imaginary fictional world. But they form the exact basis of our happiness and escape from reality.
Same was a relationship of PaNi – Imaginary. Delusional!
What we forget is – that they are two real people. And we don’t even know them. No one knows them. You only get to see what they want to show in public. I will never do that even to my daughter or sister – tell her to be with a guy who I think is perfect for her? And be upset if she doesn’t think what I think is perfect!
If they ended up together, I would have been happy. Because, why not?? They are too good to be true! But if they don’t, I’m happy because they are happy!
Their personal life is none of my business. Period.
If you are not happy, you never really loved them!!!
If we can love SRK and Kajol, Ranbir and Deepika, Siddharth and Parineeti without hoping to see them together in real, irrespective of their personal equations, we know that we have grown up! Believe in what they are trying to make you learn and experience. Not what they are in real. No one knows them.
In another parallel Universe, Manik still belongs to Nandini and vice versa, and they are together… an end-game: Forever- Hamesha!!!
I will never stop stanning them or loving them!! For me, they are the perfect definition of true love.
MaNan are way beyond even Richa Yamini who created them. A story and characters leave the people who created them and live a life of their own. I believe it very deeply. Manik is way beyond Parth and Nandini is way different from Niti and I’m privileged to be the one where two people created a chemistry that made us believe in MaNan.
Thank them. Love them. Move on. Let them live their lives!!
While you live yours.
It’s not just about people, it’s about everything in life – Every Damnnn Thing!!!
If we get it, very well!!
If we don’t, we won’t stop believing in the power of our dreams.
Hope. Love. Peace. Ability to love others more than us is amazing! And you excel at that. Extend your love for a bit more and accept what life throws at you! Everything!!
Abhi toh bahut kuch dekhna hai zindagi mein…yeh toh kuch bhi nahi hai…
It might not be a smooth ride, but life is worth every experience. And I’m so glad we lived this experience together, will remember that we can love others to that extreme. And moved on too.
There is no rush to heal yourself whenever you are hurt. Take your time. Decide your priorities in life. Make a life that makes you speak about it proudly and makes your parents and family proud and let people burn and say –
‘God, even THAT setback didn’t knock her down!! What is she made of??’
We will keep dreaming and loving but won’t ask ANYONE ELSE to bow before our wishes and desires. Not even God!! Especially, not God!!
God knows everything better than all of us!!
Lots of love to you… talk to me if you are upset about ANYTHING in life… I always say that and I am here to listen and counsel at the best of my capacity.
Stay blessed. Stay Happy. Stay Positive.